Stupid Mistakes in dating you Should Avoid Doing

Posted by on September 25th, 2017 in Dating advice
Dating Mistakes

Dating is one of the most exciting and colorful phases in anybody’s life, but sometimes it can be hard and confusing, too. There are times when you feel like you need to do the things that may feel right, but are actually not, so you end up putting yourself in a difficult situation.

If you are so into the person you are dating right now and you want to make this relationship last, you need to be aware of the mistakes you need to avoid before it can cost you the relationship you have been trying to keep.

Here are some of the common dating mistakes you should avoid doing.

1. Being always available

For women, one of the most common mistakes they do is making themselves too available for the guys they are dating. They say yes to every invitation up to the point where they even have to neglect their own social circle. Sometimes, they even have to cancel their own plans just to be with the guy they are dating, and this is entirely wrong. Even when you are dating, whether you are a man or a woman, it is still very important that you enjoy your life and maintain your personal time. You still need to make sure you also continue to cultivate your relationships with your friends and family.

2. Setting higher standards

While it is right to not settle for less than you deserve, you need to make sure that your standards are not too high and that you don’t look for perfection. Remember that we all are human and people will always make mistakes and they will always disappoint you. You should leave for mistakes or you will end up getting frustrated and disappointed. Worse, you will end up being single for the rest of your life because of the thought that no one is ever going to be good enough for you. There are some qualities that are non-negotiable when it comes to relationship and it is essential that you figure these things out once you start dating.

3. Being too independent

Being independent as a woman is attractive and sexy. However, too much independence can also ward men off. That’s because they also want to be with someone who makes them feel that they are needed and wanted. You don’t have to depend your whole life on them but you also need to make them feel that they make a difference in your life.

4. Confusing physical attraction with love

When you are dating, it is natural that you feel elated, excited and happy all the time. It feels like there’s always butterflies in your stomach whenever you see and you are with this person you are dating. However, you should not confuse attraction with love because physical attraction is a temporary emotion. If you want to make your relationship last, you have to make sure that what you feel is love before you even commit yourself. Otherwise, you may just be setting your relationship up for failure or end up getting your heart broken. No matter how sure you think you are about this person, give yourself more time to figure out how you really feel.

5. Trying too hard to make a good impression

It is natural for people to desire being liked by the same person they like so they try to look good and put their best foot forward. While there is nothing wrong with it, make sure that you don’t overdo it to the point where you can’t be yourself anymore. While it feels good to be admired and appreciated, it feels a lot better to be liked and loved for who you truly are and not for someone you are trying to be. Don’t mask your imperfections. If you want to be attractive, the best thing you can do is to learn how to love yourself and take good care of yourself, and the person you are dating will do the same thing for you. You don’t have to try and be somebody else. You can be loved and accepted as you are.

6. Being sorry for your being single

There is nothing wrong with being single. If this is the very reason why you are dating, then you should not be dating in the first place. You should not be here until you know that you are completely happy with who you are and not because you are sorry about it. You need to feel complete first without needing anyone to complete you. Otherwise, you will only expect other people to fill in the things that you can’t do for yourself, and if they fail, you will end up getting frustrated. The best time to search for someone to be in a relationship with is when you have already established a good relationship with yourself.

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