Many people have been led to believe that happiness is something that you try to find in your life. They search in places, people and everywhere in quest of the so-called true happiness. Little did they know that happiness is actually something that you can find within; it is something you can discover in yourself when you start learning how to love yourself.
The problem is people also don’t really know how to love themselves. When they love and care for others, they tend to give too much and end up having nothing left for themselves. And that is when misery starts to creep in, especially for people who are in relationships. This is the reason why it is very important that you learn how to love yourself first before you even commit your life to someone, before you even share your love to someone.
If you find yourself in quest for self-love and happiness, here are some ways you need to learn to become happier.
1. Put yourself on top of your priority list
Putting yourself on the priority list does not mean that you have to be selfish and self-centered. It only means that you don’t neglect yourself, you don’t neglect your own needs and attend to them first before anything else. It means that you care for yourself first before you care for others because like what they say, you can never pour from an empty cup.
2. Make a list of your good qualities
This task will help you love yourself even more. You need to find and identify the qualities about yourself, and everything that is good inside of you. Everybody has good qualities, and you certainly have too. No matter how small it is, write it down on your list. Then take a look at your list and you will realize that you actually have many things to be proud of as a person. List down your skills, talents and abilities, as well.
3. Work on improving yourself
Another important step to self-love and happiness is working on improving yourself. Now that you have realized your good qualities, it is also about time to figure out the things you need to improve in yourself and start working on them. For example, you feel insecure about your weight, then make a goal to lose weight and make sure these goals are time bound. The more you feel that you are doing something about your imperfections and insecurities, the more you will feel better and motivated, especially when you begin to see progress.
4. Reconnect with people who matter to you
While you are working on your self-love, it is important that you reconnect and cultivate your relationships with the people who love you. By doing this, you will feel that you are actually never alone in this world, that there are people who love you for who you are, those that appreciate you and care about you.
5. Don’t depend your happiness on someone else
Whether you are single or in a relationship, you should never look for your true happiness in other people. You should never expect them to make you happy; instead, you should find happiness in yourself. How? It is always a state of your mind. It is about being contented and satisfied about who you are. That is why the previous steps are important because those are the ways that will lead you to genuine happiness. It is all about you, and not about other people making you happy. Well, yes, they can make ways to make you happy with what they do and what they say, but if you want lasting bliss, it is something that you should start within you.
6. Commit to better take good care of yourself
Now that you are taking the first few steps to love yourself, you need to make a commitment to be consistent about it and do it even better. Eat healthy, exercise, take a break and unwind, go on a vacation, work hard yourself, get enough sleep, spend time for your hobbies and passion, and live your life the way you want to. Even if you get married in the near future and start building your own family, it is important that you don’t neglect yourself and your own needs.
Happiness and self-love may be difficult to measure but these are things that you can work on every single day. If you want to care and love others, you should start doing it for yourself first because once you learn how to do it, it will be something that no one will be able to take away from you. Happiness and self-love are your own choices. Nobody else will do them for you except you.