The truth about monogamy: Why you need an exclusive, long-term relationship

Although we live in an open-minded culture, monogamy is still the only viable way when it comes to dating & relationships because polygamy doesn’t work. Please let me explain why you only need a serious & long-term relationship. ❤️

Why polygamy doesn’t work even in modern-day society:

If you have outstanding charisma and extraordinary social skills, more than one woman would find you very attractive. But even if you are able to date multiple women at the same time, you will probably lose them due to the following reasons:

1. She doesn’t know how to introduce you to her family and friends because the relationship isn’t exclusive, although she really loves you.

2. Even though she loves you, she can’t see a future with you because in the long term, she would like to be married with children, but you don’t want to settle down.

3. She will eventually hear you answering another woman’s phone call. Although you are honest with her, it doesn’t mean she feels good about that, so the dynamics can ruin a deep and valuable connection.

4. If dating one woman gives you enough drama to deal with, you probably can’t handle dating multiple women at the same time because when you date two women at the same time, the drama becomes four times more.

Therefore, though we live in an open-minded society, polygamy doesn’t work. Full stop.

The right way to approach a long-term relationship:

Many men are stuck in mediocre exclusive relationships because they don’t want to deal with the breakup & they don’t think they have the ability to go out and meet someone else in the future. The scarcity mindset makes these men more likely to give in to things in their mediocre relationships as they don’t think they can find a happier relationship.

In fact, even if you are in an exclusive relationship, you still need an abundant mindset, i.e., you know that you are willing to walk away if this relationship doesn’t work for you; you know you can find someone else if your partner doesn’t respect your boundaries. It doesn’t mean you should cheat on your partner; it only means you trust your own ability to find love that meets your standards.

Interestingly, with this abundant mindset, your long-term relationship will become better because your partner knows that you can walk away if she can’t meet your needs. That means she will improve herself and work on this relationship.

Of course, when you are in an exclusive relationship, don’t forget to go to the gym, work on your career and build your social circle. You need to improve different areas of your life because you are not supposed to derive all your confidence from one area of your life only. As a matter of fact, statistics show that wealth is the No. 1 determinant of people’s happiness & the second determinant of happiness is health. Love is the third determinant. Therefore, please don’t ignore other areas of your life when you are in love.

“Research shows that monogamy is the only viable way to approach dating and relationships because you can’t bake a cake with the oven door open. Period.”