The dating scene can be a bit complicated. Sometimes you think you are ready to date again after being single for a long time, but then you realize that it is actually overwhelming that you don’t even know where and how to start. This is also even harder after leaving a relationship that did not really give you a very pleasant experience and got your heart broken. But don’t lose heart. You may be single right now but you can always get back on track when it comes to dating so that you can finally find the love you have always deserved.
Because dating is daunting and that it also requires hard work, you need to know how to put in efforts to make it a great one. Even if you are a woman, you need to also do something to make sure your date goes well and to make him want to see you again.
To make sure you have the best date possible and to finally have a transformed love life, here are some of the most helpful pieces of advice for you.
1. Veer away from the typical dating setting
When people go on a first date, they would usually meet in a restaurant for dinner or a café for a caffeine fix. While there is nothing completely wrong with that, that is already very common and you won’t settle for that if you want to make it different this time. You can think of something more fun for a first date. But first, you need to find out the interests of the guy you are dating with. If he is a bit athletic, why don’t you go for a run, or some wall climbing activity? Anything out of the ordinary will make your first date even more memorable and special not only for you, but also for him.
2. Be open to the idea of being set up by your friends
Some people don’t entertain the possibility of meeting someone they will like if they allow their friends to set them up for a date. However, it’s actually the other way around. That’s because if you allow your friends to set you up for a date, they will most likely going to figure the kind of person you will get attracted to. They are your friends and they pretty much have an idea about what you like and what you don’t like.
3. Be ready with interesting conversation starters
If you are finally going out now for a date, it will help if you are ready with topics for small talk and to keep the conversation going. However, do not be too hard on yourself. There will be moments when there are going to be pauses or silences and that is perfectly fine. You are meeting someone for the first time and not a person you have known since you were grade school. But the longer you spend time together, the more comfortable you will feel. Just get those conversation starters ready just to make sure you have an endless list of fun topics to talk about to get to know each other better.
4. Make a good first impression
This is your first date and if you want to have a next one, you need to make a good first impression. It’s only important that you also put in a little effort for your date to like and appreciate you. You don’t want to embarrass yourself too. You don’t have to overdo it but you have to be selective when it comes to your dress, and of course it will depend on where you are going. Also make sure that you don’t keep your date waiting for too long.
5. Be yourself
This will always be one of the most important and most valuable piece of advice. On a first date, you don’t have to pretend to be someone you are not just to impress your date. While you still need to watch out for how you behave, speak or act, it does not mean that you have to play it too cool or act like a mysterious type when you are not like that. Just be real and be yourself. If you like him, then be friendly and just enjoy the moment that you are with him right now. Besides, you will want a guy who will like you for who you are and accept you completely so there is not point pretending.
6. Avoid oversharing
While you want to allow your date to get to know you on a personal level, be careful not to spill out everything, including your secrets, to him. Set some boundaries and limitations within yourself. As much as possible, keep your conversations to the topics that are just light, positive and just casual. It should be pretty much just about getting to know.
Dating can be a pretty crazy experience and even when you try hard enough, there are times when you don’t really find the one that is meant for you right away. These steps should help to make good times on your date but remember not to settle for less than what you deserve. Follow your gut feeling and if you feel that he is not the one, you should just be moving on. But if you think you need to take a break, that’s perfectly fine too. After all, you are doing this not for anyone else but yourself.