Apart from love, another important element that should be valued in a relationship is respect. A romantic relationship isn’t healthy without it; it will never last without it. The problem is some people in a relationship do not proactively seek equality and respect. And this is alarming because we all want to feel important in our relationships, and that we are equal with our partners in love. If you don’t want to get stuck in a relationship where respect is not present;
Here are certain rules that you should follow to build respect between you and your significant other.
1. Know what you want
It is vital that you have identified the things or the traits that you are looking for in another person. For example, you are the kind of person who values trust, honesty, humor and intelligence; and you consider these things as your deal breakers. Then it’s only crucial that you find the same traits with the person you are going to be in a relationship with.
2. Don’t settle
If you settle with something that isn’t right or isn’t fair anymore, you are only allowing yourself to be disrespected. And remember, how people treat you depends on what you allow. So if you think that something is not right with your relationship anymore, or if you think that it is no longer working, you should not convince yourself and push it. It may be difficult to do but it’s better to be alone and single than settle with a person who does not know how to value you or respect you.
3. Have self-respect
This rule is a very crucial rule you can’t skip. In a romantic relationship, or even with any kind of relationship, you need to have self-respect for people to respect you, too. It all starts with how you allow people to treat you. Know what your “non-negotiables” are and then learn how to set boundaries. Only you can decide what these boundaries are while you think about the best for yourself and the things you truly deserve.
4. Treat your partner the way you want to be treated
This is another essential rule that you should follow. If you want to be respected, you must also treat your partner with respect. It is quite ironic but the reality is that some people treat strangers better their own partners. They are more courteous and polite to their friends that their significant others. They have patience with other people, and are not rude. If you are committed to someone and you know how much you love them, it is only imperative that you treat them with utmost respect. The relationship you have with them is one of the most valuable relationships you have and they only deserve to be treated with respect.
5. Focus on mutual appreciation and mutual respect
Abuse and belittling do not belong in a relationship. If this is happening between you and your partner, then it is a huge red flag that you should not take for granted. Any inappropriate behavior should never be tolerated. Instead, you need to appreciate and show recognition for one other. Accept and embrace your differences as well as your flaws. When you have expressed your love for one another, it only means that you have accepted all of them with all your heart. You don’t have to change each other.
6. Don’t expect your partner to complete you
Many people make the mistake of believing that they need to look for a partner to make their lives complete. This is wrong. When you want to be in a relationship, you should already be complete, and you want a partner who will only add a sense to who you already are. If you think something is still missing, and you are not yet complete, then you are not ready yet for a relationship. If you are only looking for someone who will fill in the empty spaces and missing pieces in your life, you are only setting yourself up for disappointment, frustration and resentment. That sense of completion should only come from you. You should never expect it from someone else.