Romantic relationships are one of the things that make us feel alive, especially during the first few months or years where you feel so loved, and you feel excited and elated all the time. However, rushing into it might not be the best decision we can also make because the more you rush, the higher the chances of losing it faster.
Relationships are meant to last. In fact, when you commit to someone, you should see this person as someone whom you will be willing to spend the rest of your life with. If you make everything instant, it might not be as good as how it is supposed to be. If you would notice, most of the unsuccessful relationships are the ones that started very quickly. So even if you get attracted to someone and the feeling is mutual, it does not necessarily mean that you have to jump right into the relationship. It will still be better if both of you will take the time to know each other better. Remember, everything’s that worth it take time.
So here’s how you can slow it down so you can find real happiness in your relationship.
1. Give yourself a timeline
You do not have to be exclusive for someone until after a few months of dating them. Even if this person makes you feel so happy, special and loved, you do not have to rush and jump right away into the commitment. After all, if this person really loves you, he will be willing to wait for you. Give yourself time to know him better. It will also help you get to know yourself better when it comes to what you really want in a relationship. You will be able to realize during this time if you are really ready for a commitment. You might be making an abrupt decision which you might just regret in the end if you jump in too soon.
2. Limit the time you spend with them
If you see a person very frequently, it will be a lot harder for you to slow things down. So, try to just see them once or twice a week for a change. It will also be a test on how much he is going to miss your company when the two of you are not together, and if he will stay faithful to you even if you don’t spend a lot of time together.
3. Avoid being physically intimate
Another thing that could trap you into rushing into a relationship is being physically intimate with someone. So make sure that when you two are together, you avoid places where there are no other people except you. Spend time in the public like in restaurants, malls, coffee shops etc. This way, you can have a real conversation to get to know each other better. You can also enjoy each other’s company without being physical. These things should be able to wait.
4. Ask meaningful questions
When you are seeing a guy for more or less a month, you might want to get to know the person deeper by asking more meaningful questions instead of just the basic. It will help you get to know who they truly are. You may also ask about their dreams, interests and so on. You can also share the same and you will never notice that you are actually having a very fun and interesting discussion.
5. Be honest about what you want to happen
There is nothing wrong with being honest about your intentions especially if you are dating for a month. If the person values you, he will understand. He will respect your decision if you want to take things slower especially when he also wants a real relationship and if he wants to take you seriously. Of course, you need t explain where you are coming from and he will respect the boundaries you are setting if he is a good guy. However, if he refuses to understand or he just can’t simply understand at all then he is not worth your time. It is better that you find out sooner.