How to Find Love: Tips to Find the Right Relationship

Posted by on September 8th, 2017 in Relationships
Right Relationship

Whether you have been single for a long time because you had your heart broken or never got the chance to be in a serious relationship, finding love and the right relationship is never that simple. It is not easy to find a person whom you can be compatible with especially when all you are looking for is a serious commitment.

Well, there is no perfect recipe nor a step-by-step guide to finding the right love, but there are things that you can do to increase your chances of finding the right relationship for you.

Here are some of the things that you need to consider so that you can find the right partner.

1. Find out what you exactly want from a relationship

Before looking for someone, you need to know within yourself what you exactly want. If it s a serious relationship, is it something that you’d like to last for a lifetime? Is this person the same person you want to be with for the rest of your life? Or you just want to be in a relationship right now because you are tired of being single and you just want to have someone you can call your own? It is important to figure out if you want a long term or short term relationship early on to make the process easier for you.

2. Check your emotional readiness

Loving someone and committing yourself into the relationship requires risk, especially when you want it to be something you can consider serious. Because of this, you need to be emotionally ready for what you are going to get into. It is not to scare you and it does not mean that relationships are bad. However, you need to know that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It won’t always be rainbows and butterflies. There will be a lot of happy moments, but there will also be times when you will fight, you will have misunderstandings and you will have arguments. This does not mean though that you are not meant for each other and that the relationship is entirely wrong. These things are all important for both of you to grow as individuals and for you relationship to grow, too.

3. Know your value

While each and every relationship is different all relationships go through trials, challenges and obstacles, you also have to know when enough is enough. There should be a limit to everything. First and foremost, you need to know your value as a person, and a partner in the relationship. It’s not that you need to ask and look for too much but you need to know what you deserve. You need to know what is fair. There are some bad and abusive relationships that people get into and in the end, they become miserable and lonely until they decide to leave. If there comes a point in time when you feel like it is not fair anymore, when you are no longer being treated right, and when you don’t deserve what you are getting, you should know that it’s time to leave. You might be wasting time on the wrong person when the right one is just actually out there and waiting for you.

4. Ask yourself if you had a happy single life

One of the keys to finding the right love for you is by being happy and feeling complete before even getting into a relationship. You should never commit to someone for the wrong reasons. A relationship is not the solution, it is not the answer if you were just lonely and sad that you were single. Or you just want to be in a serious relationship because all your other friends are already starting to get married. Having the wrong intention of finding love is just the perfect recipe for misery, disappointment and another heart break. Chances are, you will be expecting your partner to make you happy, you will be expecting them to complete you, and you will be expecting them to fill in that emptiness in your heart. And if they fail to do so, you will get disappointed at them. Resentment will grow if you realize that they do not make you happy anymore. This is where your relationship will start going downhill.

You should find love because you are ready to share the love in your heart, and not because you just want someone to make you feel happy and loved. You need to find love because you are ready for a commitment and you are ready to share your life with someone happily. But deep inside, you already know that with or without anyone, you are contented and happy on your own.

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