When you are in love with someone, it feels like everything is perfect and smooth. It just gives you a wonderful and fulfilling kind of emotion. You feel secured to know that you have someone by your side no matter what life throws at you. All of these we have experienced at one point in our lives. However, when it comes to relationship, it is not always a bed of roses. It is always about happiness, and always having the highs. Because eventually, you will have to go through the lows, the challenges and trials. Your relationship will be tested because it needs to grow. There will even be some point in your relationship when you will feel sad and alone, despite the fact that you are with someone. So if you find yourself feeling this way;
Here are some helpful ways on how you can overcome the loneliness you feel in your relationship.
1. Do not isolate yourself
When you don’t feel as happy anymore in your relationship, do not further isolate yourself by staying away from the people who matter to you. It is important that you stay connected to your family and friends that you can talk to. Otherwise, it might worsen your feeling and it might make you feel lonelier. If you feel alone, don’t hibernate and instead, go out and be around other people.
2. Think about why you are feeling lonely
If you don’t understand why you feel that way, try to analyze when this started. Has anything triggered you to feel sad about your relationship? Anything that your partner has done? Or is it just the phase of the relationship because you have been together for so long? Do you have any problem that is left unresolved or unsettled? Try to ask yourself these questions so that you can better understand how you started feeling this way.
3. Talk to your partner
Whether you have figured out why you are feeling lonely or not, it is important that you share these things with your partner. There is nothing that cannot be resolved by proper and open communication. Maybe you need to do some things about your relationship to bring back the happiness. Or maybe you are not the only one who feels this way. It is only by talking and being honest about your feelings that you can best come up with the solutions.
4. Do not expect too much
We have to admit it. There is a point in our lives when we feel sad and discontented because we expect too much of our partner and the relationship as a whole. You may expect that your partner will keep you all the time, but when your relationship evolves, some things will really change. Instead of waiting for them to exert effort to make you happy, why don’t you initiate it? You will actually find more joy when you know how much happiness you bring to another person.
5. Don’t lose yourself
Many people who are in a relationship have lost their identities in the process of loving someone. This is not healthy. When you love, you have to leave something for yourself. You don’t have to give up everything about you just for the sake of the person you love. Perhaps, because of your relationship you have lost touch with the people closest to you; perhaps you don’t have time for your family, even for your passion and interests. Relationship is about compromising and meeting halfway. It is not supposed to just be one-sided.
6. Avoid over thinking
Instead of dwelling too much on your feelings, divert your attention to something else, because the more you focus on it, the worse you will feel. Why don’t you try to look at the positive things about your partner and your relationship? Maybe you are only lonely because you have gotten used to what you have now that you fail to appreciate it. What are the things about this person you are thankful for? And your relationship? It will help you a lot if you know how to look at the bright side instead of the things that are missing. Remember, no relationship is perfect.