There is nothing wrong with being emotionally involved with someone. It is a part of our human nature. However, investing too much emotion into the relationship may be something that could hurt you or make you regret, especially if it happened with the wrong person.
The thing is that it could be unhealthy especially when you are not getting something in return. It does not mean that you always have to expect something in return for what you give away. But, when you start to grow feelings and care for someone, you’d also want to make sure that the love you give away is reciprocated, or at least acknowledged. You need to be kind to yourself so you need to know these things before you even dive in and pour out your emotions completely to someone.
1. Check your readiness
Being emotionally invested with someone is a serious thing. It could make you or break you, so you must be ready for all the possibilities. Are you ready to take all the risks that come along with it? This is not to discourage you, but you have to face the reality that once you start investing your emotions to someone, they are going to take a lot of you as a person, and that is something that will be beyond your control once you are already in that situation, so make sure that you are ready and willing to go through all that.
2. Ask yourself if they feel the same
Even if you already have figured out that you are ready to be emotionally involved with someone, it is equally important for you to know if they feel the same way. You might just be putting yourself in a difficult and painful situation if you will be investing feelings for a person who does not even feel anything towards you; a person who is not ready to be in something real right now.
3. Think about how much you are willing to compromise
Many people make the mistake of compromising a lot of things in their lives just for the person they love. While it is natural for people to do that, there are times when it is just a little too much. You do not have to drop your entire life for this person and if you think you have the tendency to do it, then you might not be ready for this kind of situation. You need to know how to control yourself when it comes to how much you are willing to compromise. You must know your boundaries, or you might just end up regretting it and hurting yourself.
4. Figure out if the person deserves your emotional investment
Before you even allow yourself to fall head over heels with someone, take a step back and think if this person deserves your emotional investment. Think if they add value to your life or losing them will not even make a difference. Your emotions will mean the most of you as a person, which is why it is only important that you give it to someone who really deserves it. However, if you think that the person is not worth, it would be better if you walk away before it’s even too late.
5. See if the person is trustworthy
Trust is such a huge word. When you invest your emotions to someone, you need to make sure that this person can be trusted. You must also be able to trust him that he won’t hurt you, that he won’t play with your feelings, and that he can and he will take you seriously. If you think he is not someone that can be trusted then do not allow yourself to fall deeper as early as now.
6. You need to be happy being alone
Before becoming emotionally invested with someone, you need to be completely happy with yourself, even when you are alone. If you are only happy because you have him around, then you need to fix some issues within yourself. You need to learn how to be happy on your own first. Then and only then will you be ready to invest your emotions in someone.