You can fake your external confidence. That’s not too hard to do. However, it’s harder to fake your lifestyle confidence. Lifestyle confidence refers to where you derive your confidence from in life. A Ukrainian woman who has lifestyle confidence usually derives her confidence from a wide variety of areas in life, e.g., her career, hobbies, family, friends, and so forth. As a result, if one area of her life isn’t working, she can still derive sufficient lifestyle confidence from other areas of her life. Now think of your life as a matrix: Which area of your life is working & which area of your life needs to be improved? Where do you actually derive your lifestyle confidence from? Be honest with yourself and figure out your answers.
Deriving confidence from your career:
Usually, a person spends approximately one third of their lifetime at work, so the importance of their career shouldn’t be ignored. Indeed, if you work from 9am to 5pm, that’s eight hours per day at work. You’d better make sure that you are actually happy with your career. If you aren’t really happy with your career, consider changing your career. You can do this by starting a side hustle that excites you, something you are very passionate about. Here is how to identify your calling:
Please answer the following questions –
A) What did you enjoy doing when you were a child? (i.e. when you were 5 years old)
B) What’s obvious to you but it’s amazing to other people?
C) What do you love doing? What are you good at? What would the market pay for? (The intersection of these three areas is what you should do for a living.)
D) What are you curious about right now?
Your answers to these questions will reveal some fresh ideas quickly. 😊
Deriving confidence from your hobbies:
Your hobbies are absolutely paramount. When you are doing your hobby, you are literally spending quality time with yourself, because your hobby represents who you really are – you are not doing it for money; you are not doing it to impress anyone; you are doing it simply because you love it unconditionally.
That’s how meaningful a hobby is.
Therefore, I’d like to encourage you to spend more time enjoying your hobby. Of course, if you can monetize your hobby, that’s great. But you don’t have to monetize your hobby. It’s perfectly fine if your hobby is purely a hobby. Scientists claim that when you are enjoying a true hobby, your body naturally produces nitric oxide which is also known as the fountain of youth because nitric oxide is a feel-good chemical which easily improves your health and wellbeing. It helps your body to rejuvenate effectively. That’s how powerful a hobby is.
Deriving confidence from your relationships:
Your relationships with people in your life are so key. The quality of relationships in life directly determines how happy you feel. What’s more, according to a recent study, every type of mental health issue has something to do with relationships. So, please don’t ignore the importance of relationships in your life. If you are struggling because there is a toxic relationship in your life, you have to make a difficult but important decision – you must end that toxic relationship. I know this is easier said than done, but here is the truth: Hard choices, easy life; easy choices, hard life. This is absolutely profound. Let’s say there is an energy vampire in your life. The easy way to manage the situation is to allow the energy vampire to be there. But this leads to a hard life. In contrast, making a difficult decision (i.e., ending the toxic relationship) is the best way to have an easier life.
As for your romantic relationship, I’d like to point out four aspects of a romantic relationship so that you can have more clarity when it comes to improving the quality of your love life which gives you tremendous lifestyle confidence.
A) Admiration – You genuinely admire each other; you appreciate each other’s good qualities. The more you focus on each other’s positive qualities, the more you will amplify these amazing qualities.
B) Connection – You and your partner have a strong emotional connection. The more shared experiences you have in life, the stronger your connection becomes.
C) Commitment – You have a serious relationship. You respect each other, so it’s an exclusive relationship.
D) Compatibility – You and your partner have compatible values and compatible flaws. More importantly, the way you approach things are compatible, including the way you deal with conflict in the relationship. (Compatibility is usually the most underrated element in the dynamics.)
“Please keep working on these four aspects of your romantic relationship with a Ukrainian woman, and you will have more lifestyle confidence as a result!”