If you had your fair share of heartbreaks, tears and pain, you might think and feel that relationships are not for you. Or it might also lead you to thinking that relationships are not to be taken seriously. While you can’t be blamed for how your past experiences have influenced your thinking, it might be better if you take some breathing space for a while until you are ready to be in a relationship again.
Being single isn’t a bad thing at all. This is something that everyone of us actually needs, especially when you have been used to being in relationships. You need to have time to enjoy your own company, and enjoy being single.
If you think that this is something you find hard to do, here are some tips to help you stay single until you are ready to fall in love and be in a relationship again.
1. Don’t be in a rush
Most women feel the pressure to get married and have a family at a certain age. However, you should not allow this to affect you. We all have our own timeline, and just because you are reaching a certain age does not necessarily mean that you need to already be committed to someone and engaged or probably getting married. Otherwise, you might end up being unhappy in your marriage. When you make decisions especially when it comes to your personal life, make sure that you do them because it is what makes you happy, and it’s not because you feel pressured by other people. There’s also no law that says when and when you should not be in a relationship. Enjoy your life to the fullest.
2. List down everything you want to do
We all have dreams and ambitions in life, and by now, if you ask yourself, you may have not done all of them yet. Make a list of these things and try to achieve them one by one. It could be traveling to a place you have always dreamed of visiting, or it could be a hobby, or just anything that will make you happy. Now that you are single is the best time for you to make these things happen. It will make you feel fulfilled and whole again.
3. Don’t change the way you perceive love and relationships
Experiencing heartbreak should not alter your perception about love and relationships; otherwise, you might be unfair to your future partner and yourself. You might be depriving yourself of the chance to be happy. Therefore, you need to keep an open mind when it comes to relationship. A failed one in the past does not mean another failed relationship in the future. In fact, this is the very reason why you need to enjoy being single now and be ready so that your next relationship will be the kind that will last; the one that will make you happy and complete.
4. Learn from your past relationships
In order to prepare yourself for the next relationship, you need to learn from your previous one. Even if you can put all the blame to your boyfriend, you also have to admit that you are not perfect and are also flawed. There are still some little things that you did not do right, but that’s normal. The most important thing is that you learn from them and make sure that you don’t repeat these mistakes in the future.
5. Cultivate your friendships and relationships with families
Being single is the best time for you to work on cultivating your relationships with your friends and families. This is your chance that being single is actually fun and not lonely. You might be alone in a sense that you don’t have a partner, but you can be happier because you have people around you who love you than anybody else.
6. Start a positive and healthy lifestyle
There is no better time to work on achieving a positive and healthy lifestyle than now that you are single. You have all the time in the world to be fit, hit the gym, do exercise and eat healthy. No one can control your time but you. No one will tell you what to eat and what to do. Also work on having a positive mentality. Being single is about doing it all the right way, and you will realize you will attract better kind of people and the right kind of partner for you.