Do your standards match your skills in online dating?

Gurus tell you to have high standards and then just be yourself. But you have to make sure that your standards match your skills in the first place in the online dating space.

• The truth about having high standards:

If your high standards do not match your real skills, you will be confused and disappointed as you do not know why you couldn’t get what you desire. 

Hence, you would be well-advised to improve your skills and learn more knowledge about online dating. For example, you can read this blog about internet dating or read books about dating skills.

Frankly, ‘just be yourself’ isn’t even a piece of advice. Let’s say you go to the gym and ask a personal trainer, “What should I eat and what should I do?” If this personal trainer tells you to just be yourself, that does not help at all. Obviously, you have to know what to eat and what to do so as to be healthy. Likewise, if you are keen to meet a high-quality woman, you have to know how to make that happen first.  

In the online dating space, most men don’t have very good photos and they lack a good sense of fashion. Therefore, if you are willing to invest in yourself, you should probably consult with a fashion stylist to learn what type of clothes and which haircut can make you look great. Truthfully, this investment will save you money in future as you will only buy clothes that can add good value to your wardrobe and your lifestyle. What’s more, please eat wholesome food, for your body needs nutrition in order to function well. 

Apart from that, you can’t ignore your personality because your personality surely counts in the internet dating world. If your personality stands out from the crowd, women will be attracted to you faster. Be sure to initiate interesting conversations with women and let your personality shine.   

• The best way to improve your communication skills is to read more books.

Most people don’t read books nowadays. Research shows that avid readers are generally better at conversations because they always have something fun to talk about. Indeed, when you are on a date with a woman, you need something stimulating to tell her, thereby sparking more interest. 

If you like reading, you can improve your communication skills quickly by sharing more interesting knowledge with people you meet. Personally, I read a book per month and I always have something to learn and think about every day. This habit has helped me to improve my dating skills, communication skills, conversation skills, knowledge and confidence. 

“When your skills match your standards, you can get the results you want.”