An Eastern European woman’s love life exercises

This is a series of exercises that an Eastern European lady has done.  Previously, she was too shy to approach men, but because of this exercise, she has desensitized herself and now she is not concerned while talking to men anymore.

How Linda became confident:

Let’s call her Linda so that it’s easier to read and understand (in order to protect my friend’s privacy, that’s not her real name, but she has given me the permission to reveal this process).

Linda was walking down the road alone while holding a folder full of documents/pens in her hands.  She practiced these exercises on many different men.  When she did Exercise 1 for three times, she wasn’t concerned about that anymore.  Then she did Exercise 2 repeatedly till she felt comfortable with it.  And she moved on to the next exercise ….

Exercise 1:

When Linda noticed a good-looking man walking near her, she “accidentally” dropped a pen on the road and kept walking.  She made sure the man was able to see it.  The guy picked up the pen and came to her, saying, “Hey, you dropped your pen.”

Linda said, “Thank you so much!”

Exercise 2:

When this Eastern European lady noticed a good-looking man walking near her, she “accidentally” dropped a pen on the road and kept walking.  She made sure the man was able to see it.  The guy picked up the pen and came to her, saying, “Hey, you dropped your pen.”

Linda said, “Thank you so much!”

When she received the pen from the guy, her hand touched the guy’s hand “accidentally”.

Exercise 3:

When Linda noticed a good-looking man walking near her, she “accidentally” dropped a pen on the road and kept walking.  She made sure the man was able to see it.  The guy picked up the pen and came to her, saying, “Hey, you dropped your pen.”

Linda said, “Thank you so much!”

When she received the pen from the guy, her hand touched the guy’s hand “accidentally”.

Then Linda asked the man, “What’s the time?”  The guy said, “It’s 10:30”.

Exercise 4:

When Linda noticed a good-looking man walking near her, she “accidentally” dropped a pen on the road and kept walking.  She made sure the man was able to see it.  The guy picked up the pen and came to her, saying, “Hey, you dropped your pen.”

Linda said, “Thank you so much!”

When she received the pen from the guy, her hand touched the guy’s hand “accidentally”.

Then Linda asked the man, “What’s the time?”  The guy said, “It’s 10:30”.

Linda said, “Thank you. I like your watch/phone.” (depends on whether this guy was wearing a watch or only had a phone to check the time).

The guy said, “Oh, thanks!”

Exercise 5:

When Linda noticed a good-looking man walking near her, she “accidentally” dropped a pen on the road and kept walking.  She made sure the man was able to see it.  The guy picked up the pen and came to her, saying, “Hey, you dropped your pen.”

Linda said, “Thank you so much!”

When this Eastern European lady received the pen from the guy, her hand touched the guy’s hand “accidentally”.

Then Linda asked the man, “What’s the time?”  The guy said, “It’s 10:30”.

Linda said, “Thank you. I like your watch/phone.” (depends on whether this guy was wearing a watch or only had a phone to check the time).

The guy said, “Oh, thanks!”

Linda said, “Obviously you have good taste and understand gadgets, so could you recommend a gift that I can buy for my brother’s birthday?”

The guy made some recommendations.

Exercise 6:

When Linda noticed a good-looking man walking near her, she “accidentally” dropped a pen on the road and kept walking.  She made sure the man was able to see it.  The guy picked up the pen and came to her, saying, “Hey, you dropped your pen.”

Linda said, “Thank you so much!”

When she received the pen from the guy, her hand touched the guy’s hand “accidentally”.

Then Linda asked the man, “What’s the time?”  The guy said, “It’s 10:30”.

Linda said, “Thank you. I like your watch/phone.” (depends on whether this guy was wearing a watch or only had a phone to check the time).

The guy said, “Oh, thanks!”

Linda said, “Obviously you have good taste and understand gadgets, so could you recommend a gift that I can buy for my brother’s birthday?”

The guy made some recommendations.

Linda said, “Where can I find a similar watch/phone?”/”How can I get to XYZ shopping mall?”

The guy either gave her direction or took her there!

Other steps can continue!

The result: some of these men didn’t engage; some of these men reacted well; some of these men asked for Linda’s phone number!

This series of exercises is based on modern psychology (desensitization and layering), and these can be adapted according to an individual’s specific needs, no matter the context is online dating or offline dating.

How Eastern European lady Linda met men on the plane:

I’ve been asked this question quite often – “How can I meet quality men on the plane?”

Many women who are frequent flyers ask this question, including flight attendants who work in first-class and business-class cabins.

You can start even before you get on the plane.  When you are still waiting at the airport, ask the man next to you, “Where are you going?” or “Are you going to New York too?”  Be engaging.

Once you are on the plane, you can approach his friends first.  If he is flying with a female colleague, that’s even better, because you can say to her, “I like your scarf/necklace/jacket” and her reaction is guaranteed to be good.  If he is flying with a male friend, simply ask for his male friend’s opinion on which magazine to read or which show to watch on the plane – this leads to interesting content in the magazine or on the show that you can further discuss.  The main idea is: simply talk to his friends about something interesting, and then find an opportunity to approach him later on (e.g., engage him in your conversation with his friend). This is called “gateway” technique.

“When you get off the plane, on your way out you can walk close to him.  If he stops at the information desk, you also stop at the information desk and ask a question.  Then you can discuss this question with him too.  If there is no information desk along the way, you simply ask him a question such as ‘Do you know any cool places to go in New York/Los Angeles/etc.?’  He will definitely speak to you because he has to answer your question.  If his answer is ‘No, this is my first time here’, then you can say, ‘I hear that XYZ is a cool place, but I’d like to know more cool places.’  Then you can talk to him about XYZ that can also interest him.  By talking about XYZ, you are planting a seed in your communication with him – implying that you two can visit XYZ in this new city.  If you feel that he is going to leave the conversation soon because he is walking towards a different direction, say this to him, ‘If you can give one piece of advice about life, what would that piece of advice be?’  I’m sure he will be intrigued.”