Weddings are one of the most wonderful and happiest events that could happen in anybody’s life. However, it does not mean that it is really for everyone; especially when you remain single when your friends start getting married one by one.
During the wedding season, a lot of confusing emotions may begin to dawn on you. Of course, you will feel happy for your friends who have finally found their one true love, but at the same time, you might feel sorry for yourself too, that you haven’t found the one – yet. Regardless if you have been single for a while or not, feelings of jealousy and frustration may be natural but you also have to know how to set these feelings aside. Otherwise, it could take a toll on your friendship, and even on your overall happiness.
Here are some helpful tips on how to deal with your feelings when everybody else is getting married.
1. Change the way you think
It might be easier said than done but changing your thoughts can help you a lot. Instead of thinking that it will never happen to you, think about how happy you are for your friend, and that you are just waiting for your turn. Who says it’s impossible for you to get married? Who says it’s never going to happen? If it does not happen now, does not mean it can’t happen forever. Do not compare and do not expect for you to have the same journey as your friends.
2. Know that you can also say no
You may have been invited to a couple of weddings but it does not mean that you need to attend each and every single wedding. You can be selective with the weddings you are attending, especially if you have a special role to play. If you know that you feel bad at the thought that you are again yet to witness two people unite as one on their wedding, you don’t necessarily have to punish yourself. However, you also should not punish your friends and be absent on their very special day. It is why you have to be decisive when and when not to be there so that you can also honor your own feelings and be fair to yourself. There’s nothing wrong with admitting how you really feel.
3. Acknowledge and accept your feelings
You need to accept that because you are single, you will sometimes feel uncomfortable and uneasy attending these weddings. Acknowledge how you feel because this is the first step for you to move on. After accepting your feelings and emotions, try to rationalize that being single does not necessarily mean that you have to stay miserable, sad and lonely. You may not be married yet like most of your friends, but you can enjoy your single life and enjoy the dating scene. There are many beautiful things that you should appreciate while you are still single. Enjoy it while you still can.
4. Be open
It is important that you are honest about your feelings with your friends. However, you must also careful with your tone and the way you deliver the message to them. You must also choose the right time to let them know how you feel because you don’t want to ruin their happy moments. When you think it is the right time, select the right place where you can have a good conversation and tell them how you are feeling. Just remember that after you tell her this once, you should not be discussing this once again. That’s because, with all the wedding preparations that have been going on, there are just a lot of stuff that your friend is thinking about. Letting her know how you feel will be enough so that she could be aware and respectful of your feelings.
5. Look at the bright side
The wedding season is just going to pass by. It’s not as if it is going to last forever so don’t lose heart. Who knows, in the next season, you might already be bringing your plus one with you when attending another wedding.