If you are new to dating, you will find that it is actually fun and exciting. But at some point, you will also realize that it’s kind of tiring to keep having the same old small talk and meaningless conversations, especially when you see that you’re not heading in a specific direction. If you feel that you are ready for something serious, then perhaps, what you are looking for is a serious commitment and relationship. And when you know that you are ready to leave the casual dating scene and want to be in a relationship you can take seriously.
Here are some pieces of dating advice you should heed.
1. Know what you want
Desiring a long term relationship should start by setting this specific goal in your mind. It should start by having the right mindset and making sure that your thoughts are focused on this goal. When you program your mind to only look for a serious relationship, your actions will follow. You won’t be wasting time dating people whom you know are not the type who’ll take you seriously. You won’t settle for anything less than you deserve, and that’s because you know what you want.
2. Scan profiles carefully if you are looking online
When looking in online dating sites or apps, just choose a few that spark your interest. And if you are interested in getting to know them, you can start a conversation and refer to a remark in their profile that caught your attention. Get to know them better by reading their profile information thoroughly and through your conversations. Remember that you are the one who should be in control. It means that if you don’t feel like responding especially to those whom you are not interested in, you are not obligated to do so.
3. Make your intentions clear from the very start
If you are looking for something serious, your date deserves to know that, so make sure that you make this clear in one way or another. It is important that you set this expectation during the early phases of dating so they know where they stand. It will also be easier for you to know if you are spending your time with the right person or you are just dating someone who is not yet ready for a commitment.
4. Don’t force it
Even if you think that you are ready for a serious relationship, you don’t have to force it, and you don’t have to rush. Sometimes, those people who are actively looking are the ones who end up being less successful. Just start by expanding your social circle and meeting as many people as you can. More often than not, this is one of the best ways many people find their perfect match.
5. Take things slow
Rushing yourself into a relationship will only do more harm than good. When you take time and patiently wait for an authentic relationship to form, you will ultimately end up with the right person. Moving too quickly to be in a commitment never ends well so don’t be in a hurry. Even if you are the only single person left in your group of friends, that’s perfectly okay. Love and relationships are not a race. It does not matter who gets married first and who marries last. The most important thing is that you find the right person and the kind of relationship that will give you a happily ever after and not a miserable one.
As soon as you start seeing someone and you want your relationship with them to be a real and serious one, remember to go slowly. Every step and every stage should be taken slowly. Take time to know the other person better. Find out more about their character, behavior, background, strengths, weaknesses, etc. Find out if you have the same goals and allow a relationship to form naturally on its own.