Having feelings for someone who does not love you back is definitely one of the worst feelings ever. You know how it feels when you find someone really special but they don’t feel the same way? This is the so-called “friend zone” because the person you love does not want to be anything more than friends with you.
This situation is definitely complicated but the person feels so close yet so far, but even when you thought that it is impossible to make your friend love you back, there are actually things that you can do in order to get out of the friend zone fast. Here are some tips that you may want to consider.
1. Work on improving yourself
If you are trapped in a friend zone, one of the best things to do is to work on improving yourself and loving yourself more. Why? Because one of the possible reasons why you are in this situation is because your friend may not find you attractive. So if you want to get noticed, start improving how you dress up and look good. Choose outfits that are not boring and monotonous, but at the same time, the clothes that make you feel more confident about yourself. You don’t have to really pay a hefty price for clothes but just make sure you always look neat and pleasant.
2. Confess your feelings
There is nothing wrong with being honest with your feelings. In fact, there is really nothing to lose because whether or not they feel the same way, the important thing is that you have let them know and you have taken your chance. And you will also never know if they feel the same way about you unless you tell them how you feel. If the feeling is not mutual, you can keep your friendship and make sure it is clear that being just friends is perfectly fine with you. The thing is that you might just regret in the end not letting them know and you might live a life full of questions and what if’s.
3. Spend more time together
If you want this person to appreciate you better, you need to spend more time with them, and as much as possible, it is better if you spend time alone with just the two of you. Casually invite them for coffee or dinner so that you get to have a chance to talk and have a good conversation. By doing this, you are making them see that you can be a good potential partner. The way we act when we are in front of our friends is different when we are alone with the person we love. You can be sweeter and more caring when you are alone with the person. It could be a chance for them to better see the romantic side of you.
4. Avoid being too submissive
When someone becomes too comfortable with you, there is a tendency that you will always go an extra mile for them and if they don’t have feelings for you, you will be prone to abuse. It does not mean like it is a bad thing to care for the person you love but chances are, they will grow complacent. Try to keep a little distance, because people tend to miss and appreciate someone in their absence. Being there for them all the time will not help.
5. Take courage
Don’t be afraid of how you feel. It is never wrong to love someone. The most important thing is that you are honest with yourself and that you are courageous enough to take another step forward and do something about how you feel. You do not necessarily have to make drastic measures in order to take your friendship to the next level. What is important is that you know how to deal with your feelings, you take some actions to do something about it and to let the other person know, and of course, being open to the possibilities of what’s going to happen once you confess your feelings. Have the heart to accept the outcome, and remember that it is important to have no regrets.