The art of staying in relationships – honest dating advice for men

“I’ve been dumped for many times,” says Gregory, “I don’t want to be dumped again. Can you tell me how to never get dumped again?”

• Know why she has chosen to be with you in the first place.

When Gregory met his first girlfriend Rachel, Rachel was attracted to him because he was a decisive, strong and handsome man. Three months in their relationship, Gregory started to complain about his boss and co-workers & become lazy when it comes to his fashion and grooming. As a consequence, Rachel began to lose interest in him. They broke up within one year.

Two years later, Gregory met his second girlfriend Daisy at a party where many women were talking to Gregory (Gregory was the manager of a team that consisted of mostly women & it was a Happy Hour after work on Friday). Daisy was working on her laptop in the same bar where she saw one of her friends attending the Happy Hour there. Hence, Daisy joined their Happy Hour and met Gregory. Daisy thought Gregory must be a very popular guy, so she wanted the challenge to date a popular and successful man. But a few months in their relationship, Gregory started to say things like, “I can’t imagine living without you. You are my everything” while showing a lot of needy behavior. Consequently, Daisy lost interest in him as well. Daisy has become another ex-girlfriend.

Clearly, Greogry doesn’t know why women chose him in the first place. Therefore, he couldn’t keep a girlfriend.

My honest dating advice for men: Figure out why she has chosen you in the first place and maintain those important qualities at all times. In this way, you won’t get dumped again in the future.

Maintaining the spark in a relationship is often about prioritizing personal development.

• Don’t show your feelings too frequently. 

Please don’t upload romantic pictures on social media too often. Don’t express how much you love her every day. Don’t talk about your feelings all the time. 

Granted, it’s necessary and normal to express your feelings, but if you actually think about this: Expressing feelings is a more feminine thing. This behavior doesn’t make you look like a masculine alpha guy.

Let your girlfriend express how much she loves you on the Internet and tell you how much she cares about you truly, madly & deeply. Let her do that often because that’s a feminine behavior. Yes, you can do that a little bit, but please let her do more in this regard.

Remember, if you show your feelings too frequently, you might lose value over time in your girlfriend’s subconscious mind. That’s my very honest dating advice for men.

Note that you should remain a challenge and stay busy because you are a high-status, cool guy.

“When you feel that your girlfriend is losing interest/moving away, please don’t chase her. Instead, you need to move away as well and do your own thing & have your own plans. Don’t be too responsive (don’t respond to her messages too quickly). Wait for her to come back to the middle and bring things back to where they used to be, and then you can come back, too. This is the best way to keep the balance/polarity in this relationship. I hope you find my candid dating advice for men helpful.”